Friday night, I wrote an entry about differences between the forces teens face today compared to years ago. Before I went to bed that night, I received a comment from an anonymous author. Said author was critical of what he/she translated as a “negative stream” and “dark picture” he/she believes I am creating. (I have copied it to the bottom of this post exactly as it was sent to me.)
I feel the need to respond to “Anonymous” as loudly as possible, so here it goes…
Dear Anonymous, Thank you for the comment you sent in regards to my post “So Very Different.” Your words were helpful, as they reminded me of several things that are probably important for me to share. As I have gradually come to terms with the fact that my words are very public and M is mad at me, I have made some valuable discoveries.
Some risks are worth taking. If I had ridden this teenage wave in the way in which my once passive, timid, and fear-driven personality had carried me, I wouldn’t have the hope I now feel in my heart.
And here’s what may really surprise you…My hope comes from all of the exceptional parents, inspiring teachers, kind friends, and extraordinary kids out there.
The truth is, M’s good friends, middle school and high school students I work with all day, and, of course, my own kids – inspire me each day. I am lucky to know many great, inspiring people of all ages
My words are just honest. And my words have just become a way for me to feel like I can make a difference. And the biggest difference, the difference that keeps me moving forward, is the hope that M will come out of this on the other side. I am a mother, and I will do what is necessary to give my children the healthy wings they will need to navigate through life. As we all know, it’s not always easy.
I genuinely thank you for keeping this important dialogue moving forward.
And now I have included the comment that inspired my words today…
From Anonymous, Friday night at 8:30: “I know times are different but as I read all your blogs I have to say there are a lot of good kids out there, there are a lot of parents who watch their children and have open communication. You paint a very dark picture of teens. I fear for K that you will enter his teen years with a negative view of teens. Yes there are kids that push it and do the things you say M has done. But there are fantasitc kids and fantasic parents who all know the dangers but have managed to rise above it. Your constant stream of negative views are not new to us they only show that you are just becoming aware of them. Don’t put everyone into that catagory.” Written by: “Anonymous”